A groundbreaking investigation into the dark secret of female bonds: rivalry.
Susan Shapiro Barash has exploded the myth that women help one another, are supportive of one another, and want each other to succeed. Based on interviews with women across a broad social spectrum, she has discovered that the competition between women is more vicious precisely because it is covert.
She tells us:
- Why women can’t and won’t admit to rivalry.
- How women are trained from an early age to compete with one another.
- In which areas women most heatedly compete.
- How rivalry is different among women than among men.
- The differences between competition, envy, and jealousy.
- When competition is healthy and when it isn’t.
- Why women find it irresistible to “trip the prom queen.”
- Useful strategies to stop the competition and forge a new kind of relationship with other women.
Whether you’ve tripped the prom queen or been tripped yourself, you will discover an engrossing exploration of this female phenomenon, as well as a beacon of hope for better, more fulfilling relationships.
“Barash outlines why women compete with each other differently than men do with each other and why women often want to sabotage powerful female rivals….This study provides a helpful starting place for any woman wondering if it’s possible to get what she wants without hurting or being hurt.”
– Publishers Weekly
“Tripping the Prom Queen is a must-read for women who want to reach their full individual potential and form strong relationships with friends, family, and work colleagues. Although it pulls no punches in the ways women can be their own worst enemies, it also shows a way out for any women wanting to improve her senses of self and her experiences with others.”
– Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees and Wannabes
“Tripping the Prom Queen provides a dramatic, up-close look at the dark world of female envy and competition. Susan Shapiro Barash compellingly dissects the myths and delusions of female friendship and offers much needed insights on how we might work to achieve true solidarity among women.”
– Judith Warner, author of Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety
“Tripping the Prom Queen is a lively, thoughtful reflection on the Odd Girl Out all grown-up. Barash gracefully interweaves incisive analysis and everyday lessons we could all stand to learn, deepening the conversation about female aggression with an honest voice women will recognize.”
– Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls